This almost looks painful for Brandon, doesn't it?
Okay... you got me started. My husband is not what you'd call, well, overly cheery - to anyone. He's friendly, people like him, and his clients pretty much promise him their first-born by the time the deal has closed because he walks across fire to make things happen for people. But cheery? Not so much. And at home, he's definitely the grouch, which I suppose is a good thing because on my worst day I still seem pretty sunny compared to him. I have found that I'm very reactive to his mood. I try to be all smiles from morning to evening but if he comes home all curmudgeony and irritated, I immediately get all, "What do YOU have to be all curmudgeony and irritated about?" and then the Pissy Wife kicks in.
No one like Pissy Wife, not even me. But Pissy Wife and Sullen Husband are married to each other and inexplicably linked till death do they part.
I already know what I'm going to work on next - you know, as far as "rabbits" go. I'm going to give myself a few more days of solidly trying my hand and cheeriness and seeing if I can make some it, any of it, stick.
Question: Do any of you perennially cheery people walk around wishing you were more sarcastic or opinionated? Tell me you do; let's hope this isn't as one-sided as it feels.
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Oh my god do I ever Amanda! I would love to be able think and speak sarcastically...I am, however, quite opinionated - but sarcasm eludes me, for the most part. I mean, I normally get it when I hear it, but it rarely forms in my mind. Not that I'm some sweet sourpuss or anything. I think you know what I'm trying to say....Yes, I would love to have a bit of a tougher skin and a more sarcastic wit. Alas, that just ain't me. Not these days anyway!
Have fun this week! Stay sweet! (hehehe)
This is crazy - I was just blogging earlier about how after three weeks living together, my fiance and I are already at each other's throats. His mood determines mine, even when I try to take over his muck with my happiness. I am not the cheery type, but I hate it when other people aren't content. I'd rather everyone just be chilled and laid back as opposed to feeling any emotion in extremes. Great post!
Ha, I have nothing productive to add except that you've just described my marriage. Do you live here secretly?
I hate that when I am in a bad mood I can't get past it. Even though the thing or issue that has irritated me has passed by, sometimes I can't get myself out of the grumpy slump, and then I just get mad at everything. It is so much more simple to just be cheery.
Who says sarcasm and happiness can't go hand in hand? I have a ridiculously sarcastic husband, and I usually return in kind. But we are usually using sarcasm to make each other laugh or to prove a point about how awesome we are...so it works.
However, I can think of certain family members who wish we weren't quite so sarcastic. But being "perennially cheery" would seem very false coming from us...so we just hope people realize our sarcasm isn't mean spirited, it is just how we roll.
I'm optimistic at home, but cheery? Not so much. I try- I implement my "kristi voice" (my mother-in-law) as much as possible but it is a lot of work! Who knew it was so hard to be so nice to people you love! :)
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